My 2.5yr old has been increasingly getting very upset if I am not around. What can I do to ease her mind and the anxiety she has been feeling so she can return to her easy going personality?
She was a very laid back and social toddler until approx 3 months ago when she started daycare once a week. She seemed to settle nicely and enjoyed going until recently.
She has also started becoming hysterical at times, with no obvious triggers. During these times, she hits herself repeatedly and sometimes it can last up to 3 hours until she falls asleep from exhaustion.
We try talking in a soothing manner when she is like this, but often there isn't much we can do to calm her down. We don't scream and yell and are at a loss as to why she has changed in personality so much.
I am pregnant with my second child and have always included her with positive language related to becoming a big sister, but am also very concerned she will not cope when I am in hospital.
This must be upsetting for you all but be mindful that how she is behaving now is not a snapshot of her personality forever more. Most kids go through stages of needing more emotional reassurance and it's often hard to pinpoint exactly what the trigger is.
I would suggest that before you do anything else that a check with your GP/paediatrician would be helpful. Have her hearing, sight and general wellbeing checked out. Then consider if she's getting sufficient sleep, good nutrition and there's nothing else which is obvious (physically) which could be causing her to be distressed.
Once this is done then it would be reasonable to assume that her behaviour is due to just that, perhaps a call for more attention or a way of exerting control and independence which are perfectly normal at this age and stage.
Perhaps less, rather than more attention and reassurance would help? Sometimes toddlers learn that becoming distressed is a way of gaining lots of lovely attention and there's benefits to parents being very consistent, calm, unified and matter of fact that all is well and there's no need for the child to be distressed.
Check the information on the Huggies site for managing separation, temper tantrums and general behaviour tips.
26 Jan 2015