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My 2 year old daughter is a biter since about 18 months old . I have tried everything to make her stop (biting her back, timeout, rewarding good behaviour). She only does it when she is excited (either playing with me or cousins) or if she feels threatene

Jane ...
Answer: Hi, Biting can be hard to discourage, for some kids the feeling of biting and need to bite can be very strong and it's not until their brain matures and they develop empathy and self control/regulation that they stop. All the strategies in the world can seem to make not much difference. Which of course can be incredibly frustrating for parents who want their child to stop doing it, not to mention the parents of the children who are being bitten. There may be times when you just need to be incredibly vigilant about keeping other kids out of harm's way and warning their parents to watch out and that your little one has a tendency to bite. This is not a sign that she's going to do it forever more. What is important is that you give the same consistent and clear message that biting is not OK, that you don't like her doing it and removing her from the situation for a short time. At 18 months she's still so little and her brain still maturing, she's not doing this to be anti social, she's just operating from a very basic and primal level. Avoid biting her back, honestly this does not work and a child of this age becomes confused by this. Be patient and kind with her and give her heaps of positive praise and attention when she's playing well and not biting. Best Jane
Answered: 06 Nov 2014