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my 3 year old will cry & scream when I brush her hair I have tried detangling shampoo & different brushers but she will still cry & scream

I have tried all different brushers and different shampoos and getting other people to brush it and when I tie it up she will cry until I take it out.

Jane ...
Answer: Hello, This is a relatively common query. You may need to keep her hair cut short just for ease and tidiness until she learns that there's nothing to fear. Can you involve her in the process? Get her to choose some hair clips and bands and keep them in a special container which she gets to choose from? You may need to save the brushing etc for when she's asleep and although this isn't ideal, at least it means you're getting a chance to brush her hair and scalp thoroughly without all the protests. Will she cooperate better if her dad or another adult does this for her? Or can you keep her entertained with a toy or DVD whilst you do it? And of course, avoid any tangling and knots which will only make the situation worse. So lots of conditioner will help. She's more than likely going to outgrow the protests, but if may also help to keep a sticker/reward chart and use this to praise cooperative hair care behaviours. Best Jane
Answered: 26 Jul 2014