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How do I keep my 22 month old son calm and reassure him that it is ok if I leave him at a friend or creche?

I have a 22 Month old who stays with me fulltime. We would like him to go to the church creche which is only 1h30min every sunday, but he seems to freak out when we are going to leave him there. He panics and cries when I leave him almost anywhere. How can I get him to calm down and reassure him that it is ok and I will be back without leaving him to scream and cry?

Jane ...
Answer: He loves you and is emotionally attached to you. In his own little way he's just showing you this in the best way he can. Perhaps for his current age and stage he's not ready to leave you and with time and maturity he will be. Just don't limit his social interaction with other adults and children, perhaps you could sit with him in the creche for the first week and then a little less time the second, maybe negotiate with your partner that one week you go to the church and the other sits with your boy in creche and then swap the next week. Gentle reassurance and you being confident and calm will also help. This stage will soon pass and be replaced by a need for independence, make the most of these early years and be delighted that he's showing you he is deeply attached, you've done a great job! Cheers Jane
Answered: 20 Apr 2013