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How should we deal with fear if we come across it again

Hi Sally-Anne. We recently tried taking our train obsessed (nearly 3 year old) son to see a tourist steam train, but when we got to the platform he screamed, shook and asked repeatedly to go back to the car. His father`s reaction to this strong fear response was to call him a `big girl`s blouse` and tell him to get over it. I was quite cross with this reaction from his father as I didn`t feel it helped the situation - how should we deal with fear if we come across it again - we go to the hospital a lot for invasive procedures so I know we are going to come across fear again! Thanks Victoria

Sally...
Answer: Hi Victoria, It sounds like your son has had a bit of a fright with all the noise and excitement at the train station. As parents, none of us are perfect and we sometimes react automatically and may do or say things that others do not agree with for the right reasons. And sometimes we simply have different views on what is the right reasons are. The most important thing we parents can do is to stand united to the best of our abilities and to talk, talk, talk to our partners about how we view our parenting. We need to provide positive feedback about how well our partners are dealing with the children, and then we may discuss the areas that we think we can both improve on. Good Luck. All the Best, Sally-Anne
Answered: 08 Dec 2007