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My daughter is five and has been at school since May. She has recently started wetting herself

My daughter is five and has been at school since May. She has been dry at school a few days, but more recently has been wetting enough to have to be changed into spare clothes. She seems proud of being changed into spare clothes. She also wets during the day at home. As a consequence we have not tried night training yet. I am becoming increasingly frustrated with the wetting. She also has in the last month started performing and crying when I take her to school. Doesn`t want to stay, "why do you have to leave", "it`s boring". It is a regular event. Although the teacher says she is fine once I have left, she has on occassion chased me across the yard or down the street. Do you have any suggestions.

Sally...
Answer: Hi, Thanks for contacting me. You mentioned that your daughter has been dry at school for a few days – was she previously toilet trained? If the wetting has only started since she started school, it sounds like it may be anxiety-related. You mention that she seems to be proud of being changed into her spare clothes, but it is possible that this is just “bravado”. A child who is embarrassed by his or her behaviour will sometimes say things such as “I don’t care” or “It doesn’t matter” as a way of coping with the humiliation. Always check with your doctor first, but my best guess is that she has some stress about starting school. Many children react to stress by wetting themselves (along with various other behaviours). And this action causes her to feel more stress when she is at school. Talk to the school and mention that she is having some difficulty with the transition to school, and hopefully they will give her (and you) some support, and will probably enlist the help of the school psychologist (which most schools have access to). All the Best! Sally-Anne
Answered: 08 Dec 2007