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Hello, I have a daughter who will be three in April and her "terrible twos" seem to be getting worse! I thought as she got older, her tantrums would be fewer and less often.

I feel that I am constantly struggling with her. It's not just when we are out but also at home. She is constantly challenging and frustrating me . I am exhausted!! I am just not enjoying her. Can you please give me some advice on how to approach her before she is too old for me to do anything about it? I am pregnant with my third child and cannot possibly imagine what it will be like if she continues this way! Please help.

Jane ...
Answer: Perhaps you'd both benefit from doing a Triple P course or something similar? Or some work with an early intervention specialist who may have some ideas on managing your toddler's behaviour and building on your relationship. Are you getting a break from her sometimes? High intensity kids can certainly be very draining and when they are bored especially so. Does she go to daycare a couple of days a week or can you go to playgroup with her? Keeping her busy at home and when out may help. Many parents find that swimming classes, gym, music and singing classes/groups help. And having lots of diversionary toys and equipment like swings and climbing frames at home so that she's out of the house and running off energy may also help. It may also be useful to have her checked by your GP, so that her hearing and vision are assessed as fine. Some kids behave like this if there is physical cause for their frustration so a checkup may be useful. And make sure too that her diet is healthy and she's getting plenty of iron and protein based foods. If she's anaemic - which is more common than we realise in toddlers, that won't be helping either. Best Jane
Answered: 27 Jan 2014