Mummy Comes Back

Duration: any

Age: baby, child

Skill for Bub: Mind Builder

summary:

A gentle activity for easing your child’s fears of separation.

Separation anxiety is a normal but nonetheless upsetting stage of development that babies go through. You can help your child overcome his distress (and your own) by practicing these short separation periods. Note: This activity requires the assistance of another caregiver.

  • Begin by playing peek-a-boo on the floor with your baby. (This seemingly simple game is an important tool for teaching your child that things don’t disappear just because they can’t be seen.) This will prepare him for when it’s time for you to leave.
  • Have your caregiver sit down the floor and join in the game.
  • Give your child an affectionate hug and kiss.
  • Then stand up and say, “Okay, Mummy will be back. Mummy always comes back.”
  • As you walk out of the room, wave bye-bye and repeat, “Mummy always comes back.”
  • Try to stay out of the room for at least 5 minutes during this initial separation period. (This will largely depend upon your child’s comfort level.)
  • Each time you return, praise your child enthusiastically for being brave and say, “See! I told you! Mummy always comes back!”

As your child becomes more familiar with the phrase, he will learn to anticipate what it means and take comfort knowing that you will “always come back”.