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Hi everyone, Just wanted to ask how everyones other halves went with their child wearing glasses? ( my 18mth needs glasses at 18mth to correct turn eyes and if he doesn't keep them on will need surgery) my dh says they should just give him surgery cause he won't leave them on even though we don't get them till next week. He says he doesn't want him to feel different or look different. and also says when he takes him out he will take them off him!! i was pretty cranky to hear that as that will make ds feel as though he should be ashamed and ruin all my hardwork if he does wear them. I think it may just be bringing up all bad feelings cause he had the same problem when he was 18mths and ended up with surgery after a year of wearing glasses cause he wouldn't wear them. So anyway how has everyone dh been with this? And what should i do if he keeps being negative?
Sorry for this being so long
Renee

Hi Renee
We get glasses next week too for our two year old. she has a turn and long sightedness like her Dad. He had the op and also says it's not something he wants for his daughter.
i hope your husband gets to see that glasses aren't too bad. DD looked sooo cute with hers on at the fitting! daddy had coke bottle glasses and DD gets glasses that are really thin and her script is stronger than his.
I think that it may be bringing up bad feelings for him too as you suggested; my DH felt responsible for DD's problems.
Things have changed heaps in less than 30 years. the opthalmologist has said that contacts can be worn at arounnd 8 and at 19 -21 laser surgery can be done. Is hubby aware of this?
I wish you and Caleb well and that your DH begins to understand your feelings.

Hi Renee,

My DD has been wearing glasses since she was 16 months and her turned eye is caused by the fact that she can't see, - surgery is just cosmetic and doesn't correct the vision problems which cause the turn. Her eyes are straight with her glasses on and we have deferred the surgery until now (she is 7). She kept her glasses on as a toddler because she couldn't see without them! We used hat elastic (very thin) to hold them on because toddlers are clumsy and love rough and tumble play. We had to get them fixed often.

As a baby both my eyes turned and surgery corrected the turn but nothing was done to correct my vision and my brain switched off my right eye. Glasses before the age of 7 can help to avoid this because after that it is too late.

Sorry to be long winded but this is something that I have experience with. PM me if you have any questions.

Louise

My four your son also has a turned eye. Unfortunately glasses will not fix his problem. When he was born he had two turn in one eye. Up and down. He has a tight muscle they don't know why. It is rare. He has had 2 lots of surgery on his eye and will need more in the near future. His eye now has a mind of his own and is turning in all directions when it feels like. They are now taking about operating of both eyes now. He only sees through one eye at a time and they are keeping the vision good in the bad eye good just in case something happens to the good eye. He is eye patching the bad eye daily for 2 hours to strengthen up his eye. If glasses will help fix a turned eye, then it is better than what may son is going through. My son goes to get his eyes tested every 4 to 6 week since he was six months old. I wish glasses would fix his problem.
Hi everyone I am genuinely seeking an advice from you guys ,I saw paediatric ophthalmologist at children's hospital for my 18 months old for squint and found out that she is longsighted with +4 and +5 and needs glasses ,when I went to make glasses for her my husband thought of having her go through another eye test with optometrist and then the result was +7 and + 8 ,we are devastated ,I am so confused ,what should we follow ,I remember when we went to hospital we were asked to put drops every night ,three days before examination so that pupil dilates properly for the ease of examination ,but at optometrist it was 30 minutes before examination ,so could anyone please guide me regarding this confusion,and I have the hospital appointment coming up on 7th August for the follow up,thank you for your time n patience
Pavanasachin wrote:
Hi everyone I am genuinely seeking an advice from you guys ,I saw paediatric ophthalmologist at children's hospital for my 18 months old for squint and found out that she is longsighted with +4 and +5 and needs glasses ,when I went to make glasses for her my husband thought of having her go through another eye test with optometrist and then the result was +7 and + 8 ,we are devastated ,I am so confused ,what should we follow ,I remember when we went to hospital we were asked to put drops every night ,three days before examination so that pupil dilates properly for the ease of examination ,but at optometrist it was 30 minutes before examination ,so could anyone please guide me regarding this confusion,and I have the hospital appointment coming up on 7th August for the follow up,thank you for your time n patience


My daughter is far sighted, too. She has always had the eye drops about half an hour before the appointment- the nurses pop them in. Every night for three nights seems excessive- unless it's a very diluted version of the atropine?

It must be very confusing having so many different doctors telling you what to do. The second eye test she had- was this is a general optometrist or were they also paediatric ophthalmologists? If it was a general optometrist- I would go with the hospitals results, I think.

When my daughter first got her glasses, the correction was so full on for her I had to take her back and ask for weaker lenses because she couldn't handle so much of a vision change. We are slowly working back up to the correct lenses, but i'm not pushing her.

When you go back to hospital for the follow up- just tell them you are confused. I think it's best to be honest and maybe they can help clear up and look into why the optometrist found such a different result. Good luck.
Pavanasachin wrote:
Hi everyone I am genuinely seeking an advice from you guys ,I saw paediatric ophthalmologist at children's hospital for my 18 months old for squint and found out that she is longsighted with +4 and +5 and needs glasses ,when I went to make glasses for her my husband thought of having her go through another eye test with optometrist and then the result was +7 and + 8 ,we are devastated ,I am so confused ,what should we follow ,I remember when we went to hospital we were asked to put drops every night ,three days before examination so that pupil dilates properly for the ease of examination ,but at optometrist it was 30 minutes before examination ,so could anyone please guide me regarding this confusion,and I have the hospital appointment coming up on 7th August for the follow up,thank you for your time n patience


Go with the ophthalmologist script in this case please. It maybe that the actual script is higher as the optometrist results were, but there is a reason the ophthalmologist only wants her to have the +4 & +5.

Often I would be recommending the opposite but in this situation follow the ophthalmologist. I hope the optometrist you saw didn't advise to go with their script if they knew she'd seem the paediatric ophthal.

Also I don't understand how the optometrist could get an accurate script from an 18myh old without cyclo drops as used at the hospital.

I wouldn't be going to that optometrist again I'd find another for when you need the script made. What area are you in? Maybe I could suggest somewhere if you a close to me.

My experience is based on 10+ years as an optical dispenser.




Thank you so much for such a timely and caring reply I highly appreciate them.its a kind of relief ,I would now surely go with the ophthalmologist's script,hoping for the best,hope she wears them .

@ optician I live in western suburb of Melbourne ,Williams landing .

Thank you guys

My ds who is 4 just started wearing glasses a few months ago. My dh had the same reaction. He kept saying how can they truly tell a kid needs glasses. I would get so angry. He also even now keeps forgetting to remind ds to put glasses on. My dd who is 18yrs reckons ds looks like a nerd which makes me cross as well. I have worn glasses since 16yrs & I am now 45yrs and I guess obviously I don't have an issue with it.




My dd2 has worn since she was 4. When she had her 4 yr old check with the chn she noticed that the vision in her left eye was very low. She saw an optometrist and they said the same, that she has partial blindness in her left eye sad Got her checked 6 mths ago and we had to start using an eye patch for a few hrs a day on her right eye to strengthen her left eye. Will be getting her checked again the next week or so. We have been told that the problem should itself out by the age of 8, so they are right. She has no problems wearing her glasses even tho she is the only one in our immediate family who wears them smile

My DD has been wearing glasses since she was about 16months old. She use to go cross-eyed a lot. She had the surgery, but that is purely cosmetic. Daycare help a lot with getting her to keep her glasses on, but ofcourse she is young and so we have had to repair them a lot. She sees the eye doc about every 6months and might grow out of the glasses. My DH and FIL also had issues with lazy eye, and my DH can only see out of 1 eye, so was very supportive as he didn't want DD to end up the same way.
Pavanasachin wrote:
Thank you so much for such a timely and caring reply I highly appreciate them.its a kind of relief ,I would now surely go with the ophthalmologist's script,hoping for the best,hope she wears them .

@ optician I live in western suburb of Melbourne ,Williams landing .

Thank you guys


Where I work is a little further away, but I can recommend this optometrist I've worked with over the years. She is very experienced, has kids herself and has now opened an optometry clinic specialising in kids eyecare. This is her website http://www.kiddieseyecare.com.au they are in Williamstown, so a bit of a drive but I think you'll find it worthwhile. Hope this helps.




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