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Does anyone else think this is rude? Rss

Okay, so I'm a carer and I've been looking after a lady with polio. We were looking after her every second weekend but was dumped on me to look after her full time, without consent. Got excuse after excuse by the company as to why she can't be removed from my house.. frustrating enough as is, im exhausted and all i seem to do is cry and snap at my poor husband sad

I'm also 12 weeks pregnant and extremely hormonal. The lady's day time carer who takes her out 3 times a week to give me a break, decides that every time she comes and picks the lady up we care for, its okay to invite herself in my house. I'm exhausted from taking care of her, my husband, myself and my toddler and being pregnant. The house gets neglected. Today it was absolutely trashed. Things were EVERYWHERE! i hadn't had time to clean up after I showered the lady i care for my son had gotten into all the cupboards, washing was all over the lounge, his toys were all over the floor, typical house for a toddler. Benches and stuff were clean and dishes done, but stuff all over the floor. I only have one set of hands and so many responsibilities. Today when she decided to walk in, I had to get something for the lady i care for to clean her and her carer decides to walk in and check out every single room in the house as she walks through.

This has made me so mad and im super offended. I've never felt so embarrassed with the house being so messy, never felt so ashamed. I intentionally most days stand at the door to stop her from coming in, not because the house is always messy, its usually clean but as far as im concerned shes not a friend! today though it was out of my control and I wanted to know am i the only one who finds people who invite themselves in really incredibly rude? or am i being super sensitive? I can't calm down as I'm so infuriated not only with the situation but this other carer's rudeness. Thanks for listening, really needed to vent! Any advice would be appreciated!
I would be p!ssed off to! I hate ppl that just walk into the house while saying hello or knock knock... If you can Lock the door (fly screen/security screen ect) Thats what I do I find it funny now because the ppl that have always just walked in now go to open the door an walk straight into it tongue
Thanks Skip!! I'll be doing that when she comes back on Monday! Feel so much better already knowing im not the only one! I know how impossible it is to keep a house mint with a toddler. dunno why I feel so bad. From an outsider looking in, i spose she would have been gobsmacked with the mess. Not gona be a walkover no more!

lovemy3kiddies - shes fricken done that before, ive gone one moment please and shes just walked in. ARGH! i have to say something.. Now to find the words. lol
That's extremely rude of the carer. I would be the same as you as well. (and I was this week!)

I don't understand how the woman with polio has ended up in your home though? Is it possible you can change that situation. It sounds totally unfair on you and I don't understand how a company can authorise that?

This week I had a similar situation. We have had an incredibly tough week, dealing with stuff we never in a million years imagined we would have to. We have had to go out pretty much everyday so life has been wake up, feed the animals, get ready to go, go, come back, get the kids dinner and ready for bed, collapse with exhaustion. Got home the other day to find a bag of "stuff" in my house. relatives had decluttered and had some things they thought I might like so they let themselves in and dropped it off. I was moritified. Not only do the thought of drop in visits that I know about freak me out, the thought of people doing that when I am not here can send me into a complete meltdown! The house was genuinely a disgrace, but it was not a normal week, however they will assume that is what it is normally like. I felt physically sick.....
That is so rude of someone to do.

I would be saying something because she wasn't invited into your home.

Can this lady your looking after be moved into another home? I'm asking this because it sounds stressful and that something that you don't need.




OC - isn't it the most AWFUL feeling in the world. poor thing, i know what you mean by being physically sick! i was having a meltdown. seriously sucks. some ppl have no respect!

blessing - ive absolutely begged the company to have her removed but I get excuses like she has nowhere to go, being in a group home isnt ideal! Its been one of the worst 8wks of my life. Hubby and i almost got divorced because of the pressure and I made it loud and clear to the company that I'm not coping but the don't give a *! Money is AMAZING, and ive been promised she'll be removed next week on Wednesday! Yippeee grin
Its good that they are going to remove the person soon.Its time you care for yourself and your own family.

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OC - isn't it the most AWFUL feeling in the world. poor thing, i know what you mean by being physically sick! i was having a meltdown. seriously sucks. some ppl have no respect!

blessing - ive absolutely begged the company to have her removed but I get excuses like she has nowhere to go, being in a group home isnt ideal! Its been one of the worst 8wks of my life. Hubby and i almost got divorced because of the pressure and I made it loud and clear to the company that I'm not coping but the don't give a *! Money is AMAZING, and ive been promised she'll be removed next week on Wednesday! Yippeee grin


Thats great! What an amazing family you are to have taken her into your care though. You won't know yourselves on thursday!
I had a meltdown too! I picked everything up that was on the floor and put it in the nursery. I emptied the cupboard under the phone into green bags and put them in the spare room. I swear if I had room in my bin I would have picked up the dishes and put them in the bin. All done sobbing and swearing I would never let my house get messy again.

didn't last very long...and now I can't find anything. tongue
That good news about them moving her. Don't want to be a downer just hope they do it.




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