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Yesterday our labby ran away again... she had been getting better lately with staying home but still has the odd moment....

Anyway... an irate neighbour brought her back - i had been looking for her & had already been to thier house with no luck. He bashed on my door and told me he couldnt get her to go home. He said he yelled at her & squirted her with the hose but nothing worked. The way he gripped her collar it wouldnt surprise me if he had hit or kicked her....

So i tried to settle her in her usual yard and she has been so distressed all day yesterday and today i dont know what to do. Ive got her inside as its the only place she wants to be. She is shaking, puffing, licking her lips constantly and has a terrified look on her face - her fur is falling out in handfuls! she has found a place to hide inside so ive left her there hoping she'll calm down.

Keep in mind that when we got her she had been abused... it has taken a long time for her to even enjoy our company and this will be a big setback for her.

I just keep thinking that this dog will never ever be happy, not even with all the love in the world.

Has anyone tried prozac for thier dog and did it have a good effect? I'm a bit concerned about the cost as she's already had thousands spent on her in vet bills and has to be on a special diet do to damage to her gut. How much does it cost?




I would take her to the vet and maybe they have ideas on how to keep her calm.
No animal should ever be mistreat and it so good of you to take her in and show her that she loved.
Has she eaten or drink anything?




Definitely take her to the vet to get looked at. If the neighbour seemed so angry that he couldn't get her home, then maybe he did kick or hit her!? Also mention this to the vet when they look her over. Poor thing.
I agree maybe she is hurt.

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Mm thx guys... i dont think she's hurt as i've had a good feel of everything and she didnt wince or yelp, plus she is still walking as usual, no change in that. I was hoping to avoid the vet (callout fee on the weekend). Was hoping someone might have an idea for getting her calm... however i remembered reading that dogs that are distressed need a dark & quiet enclosed space so i've popped her in a bedroom the the blinds shut and she's sleeping now. Probably exhausted!

Poor thing... i'm so tired of all this.... it has been 4 years & i never imagined it would go on this long. Sometimes i wonder if we're being cruel by keeping her.





Mm thx guys... i dont think she's hurt as i've had a good feel of everything and she didnt wince or yelp, plus she is still walking as usual, no change in that. I was hoping to avoid the vet (callout fee on the weekend). Was hoping someone might have an idea for getting her calm... however i remembered reading that dogs that are distressed need a dark & quiet enclosed space so i've popped her in a bedroom the the blinds shut and she's sleeping now. Probably exhausted!

Poor thing... i'm so tired of all this.... it has been 4 years & i never imagined it would go on this long. Sometimes i wonder if we're being cruel by keeping her.



Maybe he just really scared her then. You could go get her some pigs ears to chew on, on maybe a nice bone from the butcher?

Poor thing... i'm so tired of all this.... it has been 4 years & i never imagined it would go on this long. Sometimes i wonder if we're being cruel by keeping her.


Honestly - I think it might be kinder on everyone if she were put to sleep....
Unless you have a LOT of money to invest in drugs and seriously hardcore training and re-programming.. And even then it probably isn't guaranteed to work.

I honestly think that if I were in your position, I would've given up on this dog a few years and many $$$ ago.

She sounds like she's more trouble than she's worth and I think it is verging on cruel to keep her (alive) when she's obviously a very unsettled and easily stressed dog.

I understand that pets become part of the family, but at the end of the day it is an animal and it's one that is causing problems..
With it having a bit of an unpredictable nature I wouldn't be happy with having it near my kids...

Just my thoughts on it tho.. You need to do what you're comfortable and happy with.


I have seen you post about this dog before, and to be honest, I agree with JennaJ. It sounds like the dog leads a very stressed life, as much as you have tried to help it. Tough decision for you, but I think you need to ay least consider it.

As for today, apparantly people use those rescue remedy solutions with good result. I have not used it myself though.
Is she ever aggressive?
she has never once showed any sign of aggression. If anyone (including children) were to raise their voice or be rough with her she becomes instantly submissive and will cower on the ground.

We keep a very close eye on dd when she is around her, not for the sake of thinking that she'd ever snap at dd - moreso to make sure dd is gentle with her.

We've never had any reason to be concerned that she'd snap at anybody - that doesn't seem to be in her.

For the most part on a good day when she has not run away she does show signs of happiness - but I have to let her approach me for a pat, not me approach her. When dd is outside with her she will stay in the same spot, and let dd approach her - which I know she has gotten used to as she will wag her tail and give dd a lick. DD lays all over her and cuddles her all the time.

On a good day she's great - she will even chase a ball around these days if you throw it in the opposite direction to where she is. She has come a very long way in 4 years - I suppose I thought that we could 'fix' her completely but maybe she will always carry a burden. It's on the days that she runs away that she seems to be out of sorts again - and if the neighbour yelled she wouldn't have gone home because she would have instantly cowered.. so for him to continue yelling, squirting her or hitting her (if he did) would have terrified her.

I'm not sure at what point you give up - do you ever expect a traumatised dog to let go of everything? If a child was traumatised they'd also carry that around with them forever and you wouldn't expect them to just get over it.

At this stage is seems a bit of a 50/50 chance that she'll have a good day vs a bad day. I'm not sure how long this one is going to last for though as it has been many years since she's had anyone yell at her.




She's reacted the same way our cat did when she got beaten up by the neighbour's tom.
Suki was depressed for three days, would sleep behind the entertainment unit and the only time she came out was to slink to the litter tray and back again. She didn't eat or drink, and she lost fur by the handful.
She looked smaller and thinner and very deflated.
It took her two weeks to walk across an open room again, she'd go out of her way to be hidden behind or under things, even though she was attacked outside.

I'd say something happened to her. If there's no bit marks or scratches I'd say it wasn't another animal, but that your neighbour might have been very aggressive and made your dog regress...

All you can do is be very affectionate to her. Spend lots of time talking softly to her, feeding her treats, patting her if she lets you..

I'm not sure at what point you give up - do you ever expect a traumatised dog to let go of everything? If a child was traumatised they'd also carry that around with them forever and you wouldn't expect them to just get over it.


This is why I think it might be kinder to put her down.. I don't think she ever will get over it. Her fear is so deeply ingrained and experiences like the one she's just had will simply continue to put her back whenever it happens.

Of course you wouldn't expect a traumatised child to simply 'get over it'.
But she's not a child. She's a dog.
You can help a child in ways that you can't help a dog. You can work with a child in a far more advanced manner than you can an animal.

Which is why I'd be inclined to put this pooch out of its fear and misery..

If you're happy with the 50/50 good day/bad day scenario and you're still prepared to commit to your dog, then by all means go for it - explore further options to help her be calm...

But if it were me in the same situation I reckon I would've given up some time ago sleep


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