I think that even though the OP asked for opinions and not a lecture, this topic just might hit too close to home for some for whatever reason. Personally, I can't blame people for being sensitive (for lack of a better word) and offering more than an answer of yes or no. I've already given my opinion (which was those reasons don't, to me, justify ending a baby's life) even though I wanted to say more and maybe even a bit more harsh then I did. I held back because it's not what the OP wants or needs, again, in my opinion. Others might not have been able to keep it to themselves and i'm sure the OP can accept that. You can't ask a question like this without some people feeling a bit upset or angry.
Also, the OP has asked for help. Now she has to sift through the bullsh*t first.