Posted by: Chalys
Just don't fall into the trap of laying with her or stroking/patting her to sleep unless you want to keep doing this every single night.
As a parent who has actually done this for both children at various stages we don't have to do it every night; in fact normally with DS2 I NEVER have to do it and with DS1 it's maybe 3 times a month and it means we are not up and down like a yo-yo for hours on end trying to keep him in bed and as a bonus I get to sit down for more than 30 seconds and might read a chapter or two of a book or a magazine.
DS2 who is 28.5ish months has just decided that he doesn't want to sleep in his cot any more, nor after more than 3 weeks needing anyone to sit in his room with him or rock/pat to sleep. He got up once the first night, twice I think the second night and once last night. He's been having day naps in there too and the first time he didn't get up, the second time he got up once, the third time once and then today he didn't get up at all.
Keep it 'light' and try not to get angry (easier said than done at times) if she keeps getting up cause then bed isn't a fun place to be, nor is bedtime, for anyone. It's early days yet but the transition has gone way easier than it did with DS1 and I'm a bit more mellow about the whole thing. We keep his door open when he's drifting off and pull it to when he is asleep so that if he needs us for any reason he can get out himself and not wake the whole house screaming it down cause he's shut in. LOL
I did the baby gate thing with DS1 because his bedroom was at the top of the stairs and didn't want him falling down them (well looking back that's what I told myself hehehehe), all he did was scream the house down and get wound up; for some reason I found myself getting more angry and frustrated about that then him getting out of bed. LOL Plus personally looking back I think it was a major health and safety hazard. I personally wouldn't physically obstruct them from being able to leaving their room, but that's me.
[Edited on 10/02/2010]