I have had issues with my MIL for many years, but mainly since the birth of our daugher who is now 3. I am 6 months pregnant wih our second bub.
I admit that alot of these issues are very minor and through my own stupidity, they have caused a series of massive massive fights.
My MIL is very bossy and likes everyone to do what she wants to do, with no or very little thought as to what everyone elses opinions are.
I am very stubborn and defensive. And this is not a good mix for a great relationship from the start.
So i stuffed up and opened my bit mouth and told her what i thought.....big big big mistake.
I let it settle for a few days and went around to talk to her. Everything i said to her was me being honest. I am sick of fighting her. Its not good for anyone, especially my baby in my tummy. I wanted to get it sorted for good and the only way i could see it happening was me to apologise for everything and start fresh with her, and this means that i would definately have to shut my mouth and let her do as she wanted. There was no other way. We have tried other ways in the past but failed.
Here is what i said
"i have written this stuff down because i want to talk to you in a mature way. I dont want to get off track, i dont want to bring up what has happened in the past because whats the point, we only argue about it. I also dont want to say anyhting i shouldn't and that i will regret and i dont want to leave anything out. I need to aplologise to you for everything that i have said and done that has offended you and everyone else.
I realise that i am not the easiest person to get along with, given my stubborness and defensiviness. If it were possible i would take back many of the things that have happened in the 'heat of the moment' but i cannot, and i regret this.
We do need to remember that it is a two way street, however my suggestion is that we start over from scratch, forgive and forget.
I am very willing to try and make our realtionship a pleasent one, one that does not cause tension to anyone.
I want to move on in a mature way and judging from the past, the best way is going to be to start to respect eachother in all aspects, including our differences.
This, for my part has already begun by me been here right now. This is a new beginning for me and it is what i need to do for both myself, and my family, which includes you. I hope that you find it in yourself to start afresh with me"
The response i got from her was a barage of name calling, including f*** you bitch, and her telling me she does not believe a word i just said.
And she wonders why i said no when she told me she wanted to have my daughter for the morning....