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Really need some help/advice Rss

Hey guys,

DD will be 4 in a few weeks and she still doesn't stay asleep all night sad There has been a handful of nights in the last 4yrs where she has but I honestly can't recall the last time.

Anyways, some nights she has night terrors (has done since she was 1) so I'm fine with getting up and dealing with that but it's all the other times that are really starting to wear me down... Here's some of the things she will come into our room for at random times of the night:

Wants cold water (the water in her drink bottle isn't good enough <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />)
Itchy
Needs blankets put back on
Wants cuddles
Wants to sleep in our bed
Wants to change her pyjamas

And several times a week she will just wake up crying which turns into a full blown psycho attack where she screams at the top of her lungs and hits things and goes crazy and the more you try and shoosh her or comfort her the worse she gets... She gets up a minimum of twice every night.

Between that and my 1yr old still night waking for feeds and being pregnant I am bloody well drained sad

When she goes to bed she has sufficient blankets, is wearing appropriate clothes, has been fed, gone to the toilet etc etc I just don't understand why she is still waking up so much. Then come morning she has been getting up around 6/6:30am and is completely exhausted by the afternoon but won't have a nap so she just turns into a cranky beast! This cycle is wearing her down too sad

I made a sticker chart to try and encourage her to stay in bed but that failed after the second night. We have tried taking her straight back to her room, taking her crazy crabs away (boy did that make her mad)tried growling at her, being nice and explaining that she needs to stay in her own bed etc. I have no other ideas what to do, it's so stressful and exhausting and feels like it's worse than dealing with a baby sad

Please if anyone has ANY ideas or suggestions at all throw them my way, I will try anything!

grin

Hey guys,

DD will be 4 in a few weeks and she still doesn't stay asleep all night sad There has been a handful of nights in the last 4yrs where she has but I honestly can't recall the last time.

Anyways, some nights she has night terrors (has done since she was 1) so I'm fine with getting up and dealing with that but it's all the other times that are really starting to wear me down... Here's some of the things she will come into our room for at random times of the night:

Wants cold water (the water in her drink bottle isn't good enough <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />)
Itchy
Needs blankets put back on
Wants cuddles
Wants to sleep in our bed
Wants to change her pyjamas

And several times a week she will just wake up crying which turns into a full blown psycho attack where she screams at the top of her lungs and hits things and goes crazy and the more you try and shoosh her or comfort her the worse she gets... She gets up a minimum of twice every night.

Between that and my 1yr old still night waking for feeds and being pregnant I am bloody well drained sad

When she goes to bed she has sufficient blankets, is wearing appropriate clothes, has been fed, gone to the toilet etc etc I just don't understand why she is still waking up so much. Then come morning she has been getting up around 6/6:30am and is completely exhausted by the afternoon but won't have a nap so she just turns into a cranky beast! This cycle is wearing her down too sad

I made a sticker chart to try and encourage her to stay in bed but that failed after the second night. We have tried taking her straight back to her room, taking her crazy crabs away (boy did that make her mad)tried growling at her, being nice and explaining that she needs to stay in her own bed etc. I have no other ideas what to do, it's so stressful and exhausting and feels like it's worse than dealing with a baby sad

Please if anyone has ANY ideas or suggestions at all throw them my way, I will try anything!

grin


I also have a 4 yo DD and other than the night terrors she pulls all of the above. The ONLY thing that has worked is taking her straight back. Took a week or two to break the habit but was worth it lol. Recently she was struck down with Whooping Cough and was in with me for a week and putting her back into her own room was torture but I set up the baby monitors (for my own peace of mind) and ta-da! She loved being able to tell me if she needed me and had no problems at all so perhaps thats worth a try? Good luck!
Thanks for the replies, I don't know how to multiquote lol

We have those fancy drink bottles that keep the water really cold and most nights she had that in her room. I have considered getting a clock, so think it's definatley worth a shot, I'm getting desperate here!!

She had a baby monitor in her room up until about 2wks ago when it broke, but all of these problems have been ongoing since long before then lol when we take her straight back to her room she starts screaming and carrying on and usually wakes her brother up <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />

Perhaps I'll have to go with a bit of tough love and take her straight back every time and if she screams the house down then so be it, hopefully soon she will get the messgae laugh laugh

I probably caused all of this because when DH is away I have been letting her sleep in the bed with me sad Have to get her out of it before the end of the year because she can't sleep with me when I have a newborn in the room!

Just had a massive cry and DH chucked me in the shower laugh reckons it's all going to be fine roll eyes

Are the tots sharing a room? If they're not, perhaps she's a little lonely. Maybe she just wants someone else there with her?

Sorry, i dont have anything else. Big hugs. I hope you are able to get enough rest before bubs arrival.


Nah they have their own rooms, god imagine if they shared, I would be up like literally all night laugh laugh She has a special teddy and crazy crabs though!
DD is pretty good when I put her back. I just speak in the nicest voice i have (LOL) and I stay in there with her for a few mins and rub her back and pat her bum (always been a settling thing for her lol) and she doesnt fuss at all. Good luck! And yes i caused it all myself last year in winter with DD, I mean she couldn't possibly sleep in her bed when I needed her to keep me warm lol

DD is pretty good when I put her back. I just speak in the nicest voice i have (LOL) and I stay in there with her for a few mins and rub her back and pat her bum (always been a settling thing for her lol) and she doesnt fuss at all. Good luck! And yes i caused it all myself last year in winter with DD, I mean she couldn't possibly sleep in her bed when I needed her to keep me warm lol


Glad I'm not alone, that makes me feel better lol when she is in a co operative mood taking her back to her room and a quick song and snuggle gets her right back to sleep but I just wish she wouldn't get up in the first place!
this sounds really tough on you especially being pregnant. but I must say I'm glad I'm not alone. ny dd1 is doing all theism no night terrors but she wakes up screaming some night and the only thing that helps then is to wake her up fully, then you can calm her down. I'm sure Dd1 is just checking we are still there, but I just wish she would sleep through, she never has (well a couple of times)

we do the no getting up until the sun is up, but this back fired in that she gets up as soon as there is a glow in the horizon. you can get clocks that glow red and then green after 7am or what ever time you set.

when she asks to get in our bed I take her back and if she gets upset I get in with her rather than have her wake the whole house. this way I can give a little cuddle then go back to my bed.

I'm with you thought I just wish she would stay a sleep in the first place

let me know if you find something that works

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Could it be the crazy crabs scratching around at night that are waking her up?

When i had crazy crabs as a kid they were always more active at night and it was so loud that we ended up putting them in the laundry at night with the door closed.

This sounds like what my DD used to be like and the answer lay in what she was eating. We cut out all artificial colourings and preservatives and no more night terrors and much better sleep. The colours and preservatives make them wired and cause the terrors. Check out Sue Dengates "fed up with additives" website, it's a bit if reading but worth it. You also need to watch out for cheese flavouring in things like rice wheels and healtheries brand corn tubes, cheese - all sliced cheeses and pizza cheeses contain preservatives and colours, even all margarines except for Nuttelex. Basically you have to read all ingredients lists on everything you buy and also beware of natural colour 160.

DD is now 6 and just this past week had night terrors again, had inadvertently given her something with 150c in it. If she has cheese flavourings or colours... Bam night terrors .

this is what cause my night terrors as a child too, if i ate things like that horrid colour popcorn id wake up with vivid dreams..and i mean so vivid that i can STILL remember those nightmares..they were terrible sad

my DS does a few of the things youve listed but hes a bit younger, its so frustrating. we bought him a new star night light from K-mart, and hes been a bit better since, its fairly bright. we also put some dream catchers in his room and told him they're special and will keep him safe because mummy and daddy put them there, he liked that smile

i also have a special bear that was mine when i was a baby, if one of my kids comes in upset or scared or for whatever reason i tell them that if they go back to bed they can sleep with mummies special bear and it will keep them safe just like when i was a little girl. this works well with my DD whos 3. do you have something like this? even something like mummies special socks or blanket? even a scarf or a necklace..anything 'special' they can have to take back to bed...partly a bribe lol but also just s quiet smooth way of encouraging and rewarding the better behaviour. sorry thats all ive got
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