Thanks again for the replies everyone.
Ebony&Ivory- When she's "up and down" she comes into my room. I put her back in her bed and tell her it's not time to wake up yet and tell her to go back to sleep until Daddy's music comes on (alarm clock radio). If I'm lucky, she'll lay in her bed for half an hour, and then it repeats until DH's alarm comes on.
DD is in a bed in her own room. We leave the door open as she freaks out with it closed and I have tried leaving it closed before with no success either.
We recently started threatening to close it if she doesn't get back in her bed, and have done it a few mornings at 3am when she won't go back to sleep.
She just yells and cries, and doesn't give up. By 4.30 I'm angry and so tired. All she wants is for me to get up with her and I refuse. I believe I'm pretty firm with her but she's a very stubborn little girl. I always snap before she does.
I tried dropping the day sleep one day this week, and DD fell asleep watching a DVD with me at about 2.30. She was so exhausted, there was no way I could keep her awake. I only let her sleep for 1.5 hours, and even then she woke up really cranky. The next day she was at daycare and she usually sleeps 1.5 - 2 hours there.
I wish I could work out why she was waking so early.
Anyway, any more suggestions are welcome smile
OMG how exhausting. My 2 year old is still in a cot and sleeps with door shut as well, I can see me having these sorts of problems once she moves to a bed - she's fiesty as and can see her waking and banging on the door. When her sister moved to a bed she only came out throughout the night for about a week, after that she got used to a bed and stayed in it. Is it possible your DD is still adjusting to the big bed or has it been long enough now - just thinking out loud.
I've heard of people having sucess with putting a baby gate at the door, so that way door is open but they cannot get out - but at 2 1/2 maybe they could climb over it, my DD would give it a crack I reckon, but its worth a shot.
It sounds like something is keeping her restless at night so maybe something is up with her diet - preservatives and colours can cause frequent night waking. I'm looking into this at the moment because my eldest has issues with this.
Have a look here http://www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info/factsheets/Fact282.htm
Also have a look at the list of additives to avoid
I have also heard of people using medication to re-adjust their childs sleeping pattern, ie use it for 3 nights so that your child gets a good nights sleep and sometimes that is enough to get them back into a good pattern. Some people find this controversial but perhaps its something to ask your Dr about. There are a couple of things I know of, 1 is Phenergan and 2 is Brauers Calm.
Its so hard when they dont sleep, I hope some of this helps and you can find a solution that works for you.