I was hoping someone could help me. I have a 3 1/2 year old son (born at the end of Feb) who attends kinder twice a week for 5 hours a week. He is extremily shy and is the type who sits back and observers but takes everything in. i was told today that it is best for him to do another year of 3 year old kinder as he is socially not ready for 4 year old kinder! This shocked me as i wasnt expecting this.
Does anyone else have a 3 - 4 year old who isnt "socially ready"? does anyone have any suggestions on what i should be doing to help him?
please help, very worried mum!
Its hard to hear that our kids are a bit outside the square and of course it worries you... but the good news is that his teacher has identified this and you can act on it and I'd definitely be following her advice.
It will be no drama to your little boy to do another year of 3 year kinder and its so much better for him socially and developmentally to do it now at this age and not when he's at school. The older they go to school (starting primary) the better, it paves the way for their whole school life and if they are not ready emotionally and socially it can make it so hard for them.
My kids were born early in the year so my eldest DD is now one of the youngest in her kindy class... by default of when all their birthdays fall it has just happened that all the other kids are between 6 and 12 months older than her and that is a big difference at this age. Part of me thinks she would have been better off doing another year of 4 year old preschool before starting school and has made me rethink what I'll do for the other kids. She's doing fine now but the first 4 months or so were really hard for her socially and emotionally. She's not a shy kid but starting school is a really big thing and being just that bit older means they cope with it much better.
All kids are different and have different personalities, I dont think you can change a child that is shy but by giving him that extra time to be little and learn social skills it will build his confidence and I dont think there's anything wrong with letting little kids be little kids.