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terrible twos, don't think so! Terrible threes more like it! Rss

I just really need it get this off my chest.

My son has only turned 3 and he's just a nightmare. I can't handle it anymore. He screams, hits, throws things, talks to me just really awful. They say its the terrible two, pfft don't think so! Its more like the terrible threes! The day he's turned 3, its gone down hill. He's a monster!! I feel like such an awful mum. It seems like all I do is, yell at him, putting him in time out, smacking. I just can't win either way. My partner isn't at home at them moment, so its just me dealing with it all (no surprises there). I just don't know what to do anymore. Its getting to the point where I don't want to be a mum anymore, yes its awful to say. But I really do love my son to pieces. I'd be lost without him but argh somedays. Where did my sweet giggly child go? I really don't know what I doing wrong.

Thanks for listening. I just really needed to get that out.
Well I'm glad it's not only me! I have twin girls who just turned 3 and it's as if the 'smart arse fairy' came and tapped them on the head. One is more dominant, but overall they both test me to the point where i too would like to take off and not come back! Yes; I love them to death and treasure them and thank God that they came into my life, but there are days where I also ask God "what on earth have I done to deserve this and where have my cherubs gone?" I am at the point where I've realised that a smack, timeout and taking away a toy is a waste of time and effort - to be honest; when they just don't listen and nothing I do or say works, I casually turn my back and walk away and let them sort it out for themselves. Unless there is blood I will not get involved. Many times I've gone to the rescue only to come out the 'baddy' and they walk off hand in hand playfully. Aaaargh!!!
I feel your pain sister!!! We mums just need to realise that there is no manual, all kids are individuals and there WILL be bad days - o boy will there be bad days!!!
well its not just me then thank god for that!!!!!!!
I have a son who is 3 in two months. i feeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaar the day he turns 3 because i know from havin two lil sisters that they act up. he is a brat for me its just not fair. i have smacked, time out, takin toys, put a whole tub of ice cream in the bin, put the whole toy box outside, tipped coke into the garden all in effort to hope one day it will get through to him that its not acceptable.

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Reading your post sounds so much like my situation here at home. Except I also have a 20 month old that adds to the chaos & tantrums experienced each & every day.
I too am at my wits end & just don't know what to do anymore. I wish there was an answer out there.
Surely, in time things have to improve & get better. I keep telling this to myself when I am thinking rationally and not in my "crazy mummy" state when I am upset with the kids.
Here's hoping we all get through this stage.

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Oh I totally understand! My darling boy could b a terror when he was 2 but he is like a little crazy person some days now he's 3! His tantrums have gotten so violent, and he even tries to harm himself, and theres no calming him, all I can do is hold him tight and try to talk calmly til he settles. Which is a challenge when you've been hit and are angry also.

He goes out of his way to push boundries, and when I get after him or put him in the corner he starts mouthing of and telling me off. Its like I have a hormonal bratty teenager compacted into a 3 year olds body.

I hate yelling, I feel like the worst person in the world, but it just gets that full on and frustrating and he just never listens. But I feel a little better hearing the lady further down the road doing the same thing. lol And with a 2 year who is now mimicking Big Bros behavior, some days I feel like hiding from them for awhile!

We have days when DS is a cuddly little darling, then the next day he turns into the little crazy person.

I agree it should b the terrible threes! The twos is just a warm up. I'm dreading going through it with DD.
Gee, I'm in for a whole world of pain then aren't I? My darling little boy is exactly as you describe, (minus the mouthing off), because he is only 16 months old!!!! He throws himself on the floor, bangs his head on the floor and walls, throws things, hits us - and himself, pulls our hair. I yell too, and I've smacked, and we put him on the naughty mat - NONE of it works. We take things away from him, all sorts. My daughter (14) says that sometimes he reminds her of "Chucky"!! On the other hand, he is so gorgeous, and can be so adorable. He's really not talking yet, only a few words, but he really is the light of my , and our, lives. But it worries me what he'll be like in a year or two. Does anyone know any good playgroups and/or kindergyms in the north east suburbs of Adelaide? I think he's just bored. I know he would enjoy going.
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Oh I totally understand! My darling boy could b a terror when he was 2 but he is like a little crazy person some days now he's 3! His tantrums have gotten so violent, and he even tries to harm himself, and theres no calming him, all I can do is hold him tight and try to talk calmly til he settles. Which is a challenge when you've been hit and are angry also.

He goes out of his way to push boundries, and when I get after him or put him in the corner he starts mouthing of and telling me off. Its like I have a hormonal bratty teenager compacted into a 3 year olds body.

I hate yelling, I feel like the worst person in the world, but it just gets that full on and frustrating and he just never listens. But I feel a little better hearing the lady further down the road doing the same thing. lol And with a 2 year who is now mimicking Big Bros behavior, some days I feel like hiding from them for awhile!

We have days when DS is a cuddly little darling, then the next day he turns into the little crazy person.

I agree it should b the terrible threes! The twos is just a warm up. I'm dreading going through it with DD.


This is me allllll over. Dd1 is 3.5 and dd2 is 21 mths. It's bad enough that dd1 is like this but dd2 is starting to copy wahhhh.
i couldnt agree more, little monsters!!!!!!!
I agree with the terrible threes!! I have another year to go before my last child is three,I'm enjoying her being cute and funny for now with the occasional tantrum, its ok for now lol. My other 3 children were lovely untill 3yrs when they decided to take being difficult to the max!!!

I've found the odd numbers in age the worst for all my kids. My oldest is 14 yrs, so far just grunting like a normal teen lol roll eyes
Thank god.... Here I was thinking I was going insane and that it was just me going out of my mind... My 3yr son wont listen to a thing I say, he throws regular tantrums, wont eat dinner, answers back and just drives me insane... and I was thinking that the one saving grace that I had was that he would listen to his dad and would do everything that he said, until recently when he now wont listen to either of us... I've tried time outs, naughty spots, ignoring the behaviour, missing out on treats, everything that I can think of.... I just dont want to yell and nag anymore... I must sound like an awful mum to the neighbours and anyone else that hears me...
WOW! I really thought I had the only one!!!! Im sitting here bawling that you guys all have the same problem!!! I am begining to hate being a mum and i have two more to come!!! I was thinking that It was all me cos I find none of it works either! (i ALWAYS see kids at the shop and they are lovely- and mine is running off and screaming at me! Home is worse)

Mum of twin girls: When you leave them to fight it out; It works much better then picking a side? Always or just sometimes? Was thinking I should try this with dd(2) and ds(3.5).
Do other mums do this?

THANK you all so much! Its good to know Im not a bad mum- thank you! You have all really helped me!

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To Kandied Heart,
If you are tired of refereing your girls then yes I would let them work it out by themselves! Of course you will need to watch that it stays a fair fight with no weapons lol. I have two girls ages 10 and 11, who can scrap it out big time. They did it when they were younger too and I let them work it out. smile
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