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MY TOUCHY SUBJECT BE WORN



OUT OF ALL THE DATES IN A SINGLE YEAR

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING


ONE DECEASED CHILDS DUE DATE BECOMES 3RD CHILD DUE DATE

As most of my close friends on here are aware i have lost a child little girl 10yrs ago at 16wks LEEAHNRA GRACE ON 20.7.2000,

my angel was due on 20th December 2000

MY 2ND & 3RD BABIES WHERE CONCEIVED & DUE WITHIN A DAY OF 10YRS APART

I AM NOW 35WKS PREGNANT WITH MY THIRD CHILD I HAVE BEEN BOOKED INTO HAVE C SECTION ON 14TH DECEMBER WHICH I WAS MOST HAPPY WITH


BUT NOW DOCTORS HAVE POSTPONED MY C SECTION TILL 20.12.2010 THE DATE MY ANGEL WAS DUE EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS BORN IN 20.7.2000 GOD REST HER SOUL

I STILL REMEMBER THE DAY SHE WAS DUE TO COME & MEET HER MUMMA & HER BIG BROTHER CORY NOW 12YRS OLD& LARGER FAMILY 20.12.2000






ALL THOUGH THIS PREGNANCY I HAVE HAD BEEN TOLD I COULD LOSE BUBBA CAME CLOSE FEW TIMES WAS PUT IN HOSPITAL SEVERAL TIMES FOR THE THAT VERY REASON


I PRAISE GOD EVERY DAY I AM GETTING ANOTHER CHANCE TO BE A MUM AGAIN AFTER ALL THIS TIME



I JUST WISH THIS BUBBA COULD HAVE OWN DUE DATE NOT HERS ,


MY SISTER TOLD ME TO LOOK AT THIS WAY LEEAHNRA WAS BORN ON 20.7.2000 AS GOD HAD PLANNED

20.12.2010 IS NOW BUBBA DUE DATE


I DON'T WANT TO SEEM COLD I LOVE BOTH MY BABIES SO VERY MUCH BUT MIXED FEELINGS THE DATE NOW .................

I DON'T THINK I AM JUST EMOTIONAL ON THIS MATTER LOSING A CHILD IS SOMETHING SOMEONE NEVER GETS OVER JUST LEARNS TO LIVE WITH

MAKES MATTER WORSE THE OTHER DAY ONE OF 8 SISTERS SAID I AM SO GLAD YOUR HAVING YOUR 2ND CHILD


EVEN THOUGH SHE CAME TO MY DAUGHTER MEMORIAL

I TRIED EVER SO POLITELY TELL HER THIS IS MY 3RD CHILD AND THAT YOUR VERY AWARE OF THIS

I LOVE ALL OF MY 3 BABIES

ANY IDEAS ON WHAT I CAN DO ????
could you maybe sit and have a chat with you OB about it? explain the situation to him/her and see if u can get the date changed, even if its only 1 or 2 days different, just explain why you dont want them to have the same due date. i dont think its a silly/over emotional request. that is a day for u to mourn your loss, and i have never lost a child but i wouldnt want to have a new baby on another childs due date. that would mean that bubbas birthday would be mixed feelings every year. wont hurt to have a chat to the OB and see what they say. even if they say it has to be booked for that date you could try things to try and bring on the labour (sex, walking, hot food ect) that way if u do go into labour early they will do a C-sect for u.

good luck

Hi Jude,

I can't offer you any answers, I just wanted to say that I've been reading your posts and know how much you are looking forward to meeting your new bub, and how much you miss your angel. Just wanted to give you a GBH to show my support to you.

Sheridan

could you maybe sit and have a chat with you OB about it? explain the situation to him/her and see if u can get the date changed, even if its only 1 or 2 days different, just explain why you dont want them to have the same due date. i dont think its a silly/over emotional request. that is a day for u to mourn your loss, and i have never lost a child but i wouldnt want to have a new baby on another childs due date. that would mean that bubbas birthday would be mixed feelings every year. wont hurt to have a chat to the OB and see what they say. even if they say it has to be booked for that date you could try things to try and bring on the labour (sex, walking, hot food ect) that way if u do go into labour early they will do a C-sect for u.

good luck






yes mixed feelings every year regarding my who has child who has passed away

not sure how i would cope celebrating 3rd child's birthday on same day....


GREAT ADVICE I SHALL RING MY SPECIALIST TOMORROW SEE IF HE CAN CHANGE DATES OR TALK TO SOCIAL WORKERS LIKE MY SISTER LEE SAID IN QLD




I LOVE ALL OF MY BABIES THE SAME JUST FINDING THIS NEW DUE DATE HARD TO TAKE ON BOARD
not sure how i am going cope if dates aren't changed ..........................




personally if any one who has lost a child before i am so sorry if this is upsetting to you in any way


but i need to discuss this issue
Hey Jude,

It sounds as though you still have a lot of raw pain from the loss of your daughter - and I'm very sorry for that. sad I think you should probably talk to someone personally, rather than just on Huggies. Is your relationship with your doctor/OB open enough for you to be able to share what you're going through? Or do you have a close friend or family member who you can talk to - someone who will understand and be able to provide a supportive environment for you to grieve and share your thoughts/feelings?

Would you like to talk about why this similar due date is affecting you so deeply?

I hope you can find someone to talk through this stressful time with.

Renee
I agree with the others.... you need to let them know how you feel about this date.

I just wanted to add I had a m/c before DS and lost that baby on the 22nd of Feb. DS was due on the 23rd of feb the next year.... it was also the anniversary of my dads death on the 26th of Feb so I totally understand not wanting the bub on dates that mean something to you - but sometimes you can't change things. I ended up delivering DS on the 27th... but as he was a natural delivery I would have had no choice on what day he would have been born.

I have then had another m/c between DS and this pregnacy.... I m/c on the 10th of may and guess what this bub is due the 8th of may.

So again it might happen that I have this baby on the date of the other ones m/c.

I hope your ok, just remember it wont matter if your bubs share a birthday/due date - you will still love them all the same

yes i love all my 3 babies


i going ring my bubba"s specialist tomorrow see if i can change the dates



if not try to bring on labor but don't really want to that cos of my uterus shape being high risk pregnancy and all


im ok really i had long chat with my sister last night over the phone


just want my newborn bubba to have different due date to his deceased sister
sometimes, we never know if the decision we made was the right one, but that's when we have to trust ourselves & believe everything worked out for a reason
Sorry for the loss of your daughter 10 years ago.

Can I ask why the Drs want to postpone csect for this baby? What was wrong with the Drs doing the csect on the 14th?

To me 14th sounds like a better date with Christmas approaching so you can be home for Christmas day with your children rather than being in hospital untill Christmas Eve (allowing 5 days).

I could only suggest sitting and talking to OB and just begging for any other date really, prefferably atleast a day or two earlier than the 20th, so you can have 1) seperate dates for your children and 2) still be home with a few days spare before Christmas Eve to enjoy Christmas day with your family at home.

Hoping your Dr can understand where your coming from and is willing to change date of csect.
hi first of all i just wanted to say i am sorry for your loss i too understand your pain as i have lost two of my precious babies , as soon as i read your post i understood that you would have mixed feelings about the date but i also straight away thought that your precious angel may have had a part in changing your dates so you now have a reason to smile on that day every year from now on ,just a thought ,it just sounds like it was meant to be and that your angle was sending a sign to let mummy no its ok to be happy on that day x

hi first of all i just wanted to say i am sorry for your loss i too understand your pain as i have lost two of my precious babies , as soon as i read your post i understood that you would have mixed feelings about the date but i also straight away thought that your precious angel may have had a part in changing your dates so you now have a reason to smile on that day every year from now on ,just a thought ,it just sounds like it was meant to be and that your angle was sending a sign to let mummy no its ok to be happy on that day x



I totally agree with your post..
Maybe jude thats how you have to start looking at it me personally and as ri ri has said I also think it is a sign from your daughter above..
So sorry for your loss and hope you find happiness..
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