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Hi ladies! How’re you? I really need you to help me understand what I feel. I hope you can relate! Bc I feel so weird and I don’t know if it’s ok. Ttc is driving me crazy! So I have a coworker, whom I do not get along with by mutual agreement. She’s just announced she is pregnant for a second time on her first month trying. She knows everything I have been going through and still found it necessary to make her way into my office to show me her ultrasound picture. Am I over reacting? She started trying for her first when we did!!! And she is already on her second!!! And here I am who, despite a load of money and treatments, still can't get our first. I hate this so much!!! I really want to say a lot of mean and awful things, but I think I will stop now as I know it’s wrong and I should be grateful that I at least have a chance to have treatments and ttc. I understand the only thing I should worry and think about is my family and my trying. I believe everyone should mind their business and who am I to judge or jealous if someone conceive that easily. But it seems that woman does that on purpose! She never loses her chance to poke her pregnancies and her children in my face. I know it’s impossible to escape such things as it seems everyone around is preg and having kids, it’s inevitable, it’s life… But it’s so unfair… Am I any worse than all the rest? Yes I have reached the crazy point. Thanks for listening.
Vent away, I agree. I am sure that she is genuinely thrilled with her pregnancy. And you can't expect her not to glow. However, why would she feel the need to say that she became pregnant on her first month trying?? I've heard other women say that and I never quite understood. Does that mean they’re better than us?? Does that mean we’re not as good as people who "aren't trying" but become pregnant anyway?? She just needs to get over herself. It certainly seemed unnecessary of her to show you the ultrasound pics... Especially since she knows what you've been going through!! I would probably feel the exact same way as you!! People can be so inconsiderate sometimes.
Yeah it is hard enough to hear they are pg but that they got pg so quickly is like putting salt in the wound. I'm really sorry you are having such a frustrating day. No, you are not over reacting. Just keep thinking of the day that you can barge into her office and show her the pics of your baby! Just kidding, you shouldn’t care about what she thinks at all BUT it can be one of the points in your list to stay positive and motivated on your way of becoming a mother. As hard as it is be the bigger and BETTER person and just congratulate her. Do not let her know it even bothers you a little bit. Sometimes that gets these idiot people to stop doing stupid &hit. Your day will come, and you’ll be a happy mother.
That's awful. I don't get how some people think and how inconsiderate and mean they can be. It's one thing if she didn't know but knowing and then on top of that showing the u/s pic… I'm so sorry that you have to deal w/people like that. You have every right to be angry and disappointed. I definitely have days like this. For example one of my friends has 17 month old twins. I'm very happy for her. And I suspect that she also had some help getting pg. But she is trying to convince me that just one month they decided to have a child and boom it happened. And also she naturally produces multiple eggs. She knows that we've been ttc for a long time. I'm not sharing any details with her, because I'll be judged, even though she probably went through the same thing. I don't feel as close to her anymore, especially when all she does is talk about her kids, her niece and even her neighbors’ kids. To me that's just a bunch of useless information that brings me down. Eventually I decided that she’s toxic for me at this period of my life. So I minimized our communication.
She was all about the "first month trying" the first time around. And it is not like we are even close enough for u/s pics. WE DON'T LIKE EACH OTHER!! My other coworker heard her come in my office and got so pissed she said she was going to go say something to her. She is good and kind woman. But I said it is not even worth it. And to really add the salt to the wound she decided to sit with me at lunch that same day along with my boss and talk all about her one year old, her morning sickness, etc... I almost burst into tears. I did congratulate her. But why can't that be good enough for her. Thanks for understanding.
I really understand what you’re going through and I feel your pain. My sister has had 2 kids since we've been trying. She just told me she's having another one. I look at people who are not good parents and don’t deserve to even have kids and I get upset. My friend who is the worst parent of all asked me if I want to be in the delivery room w/ her after I just found out that we have to go through fertility treatments to get pregnant. It's not fair and I bet we all feel the same way! As for your coworker, as hard as it may be just try to ignore her and just give a fake smile. Some people just derive satisfaction from making others unhappy. But you did the right thing by congratulating her. You are the bigger person. Don’t let her win by stooping to her level.
You congratulated her... That makes you the bigger person here. It really does. It's so hard to say why she would do this to you and flaunt those u/s pics in your face. I've found that people like her are either: just too damn stupid to realize the pain they're causing or the type of person who likes the attention (good or bad), or is just pure evil incarnate! Being that she knows you've been trying for a while and still proceeded to rub it in your face that SHE was able to get pregnant not once, but TWICE all in the very first month of trying... I'm going to guess that she falls into the third category listed above. It's one thing to glow naturally and be happy for yourself that you're "great with child", but to do what she did is completely uncalled for. I can see why you two do not get along. Luckily, you ARE the better person in this situation. Like a lot of the other ladies said, don't even give her the satisfaction of knowing that this bothered you. You WILL get pregnant and from the sounds of it, you WILL make a better mother than this woman (persons’ values get passed down to their children). Good luck to you!
i do not want to take anyone's side here (although I understand what op goes through!). but what if she just did not think about it enough?? She does not have to think about all of the others when she has such great news to share. I mean she could've just been too happy to think twice you know..
Oh, honey, I can imagine how you're feeling at the moment..I'm so sorry for this..and that you have people around who aren't much compassionate..But I really would advise you to concentrate on your treatment now, not on her or anyone else..This might distract you dramatically from your main aim.
I have no idea of your dx or the treatments you're passing (planning to pass). But wanted to share this good news with you in case it might help you one day through. The clinic where we've successfully conceived our IVF kid has introduced their new IVF method. It involved the donation of mitochondrion in case your eggs aren't good enough to turn into perfect embryos when time comes. You might know that any cell of our body, eggs in particular, can not function well without a healthy mitochondrion. it's known like a ''power station'' of the egg. So the aim of such a procedure is to stimulate the donor and you, Then to retrieve healthy mitochondria from the donor's egg and transfer it to your egg. This way you get your eggs ''renewed'' and full of energy. Then your eggs are fertilized with the partner's sperm. Mitochondria donation is a unique assistive reproductive technology, which is basically the implantation of a healthy and functionally active donor mitochondria into the cells of an infertile patient, that provides the patient’s cell with the necessary energy and contributes to successful pregnancy.
I just felt I need to share. in my opinion it's may be worth trying before moving onto donor egg and abandoning genetic link to the future baby.
Hope you'll heal emotionally soon. Take good care Xx
She does not have to think about all of the others when she has such great news to share. I mean she could've just been too happy to think twice you know http://onlinefreegiftcodesgenerator.com
Stellavanile wrote:
Hi ladies! How’re you? I really need you to help me understand what I feel. I hope you can relate! Bc I feel so weird and I don’t know if it’s ok. Ttc is driving me crazy! So I have a coworker, whom I do not get along with by mutual agreement. She’s just announced she is pregnant for a second time on her first month trying. She knows everything I have been going through and still found it necessary to make her way into my office to show me her ultrasound picture. Am I over reacting? She started trying for her first when we did!!! And she is already on her second!!! And here I am who, despite a load of money and treatments, still can't get our first. I hate this so much!!! I really want to say a lot of mean and awful things, but I think I will stop now as I know it’s wrong and I should be grateful that I at least have a chance to have treatments and ttc. I understand the only thing I should worry and think about is my family and my trying. I believe everyone should mind their business and who am I to judge or jealous if someone conceive that easily. But it seems that woman does that on purpose! She never loses her chance to poke her pregnancies and her children in my face. I know it’s impossible to escape such things as it seems everyone around is preg and having kids, it’s inevitable, it’s life… But it’s so unfair… Am I any worse than all the rest? Yes I have reached the crazy point. Thanks for listening.

Thought this might be helpful in a way. ##
__Center for Human Reproduction offers patients who are above 40 and for those, who suffer from low levels of AMH, an innovative program that makes it possible to get pregnant with their own eggs. Mitochondria replacement therapy is an innovation and a breakthrough in the field of ART and the fertility treatment. This program gives women, who underwent numerous unsuccessful IVF cycles, aged 40+, patients with low mitochondrial functional activity, an excellent chance to give birth to a child who shares a genetic relationship with her and her partner. Mitochondrion is one of the most important components of any living cell, including the egg. In simple words, mitochondrion is the cell’s energy station. Essentially, its work consists in supplying the cell with vital energy for its normal functioning. Women that went through multiple unsuccessful IVF attempts, as well as of older reproductive age, need to restore oocyte mitochondria in order to successfully become pregnant. A woman can become pregnant only if there are functionally active mitochondria in her oocytes. Donation of mitochondria will allow thousands of hopeless women to give birth to a healthy child through IVF using mitochondrial donation. To carry out such a procedure, an egg donor with a high functional activity of mitochondria, a patient, and sperm for in vitro fertilization are required. Healthy functionally active mitochondria are taken from a donor’s oocyte and integrated with the patient’s cells. Next, fertilization with sperm and transfer of a healthy embryo into the patient’s uterus is performed. Mitochondria donation is a unique assistive reproductive technology, which is basically the implantation of a healthy and functionally active donor mitochondria into the cells of an infertile patient, that provides the patient’s cell with the necessary energy and contributes to successful pregnancy. Mitochondrial DNA and Human DNA are different things. It only gives that necessary energy to the oocyst and helps with developing an embryo and make it stronger. DNA is in the core of the mitochondria, which are not used for donation. Therefore, genetically, mitochondria have no effect on the embryo!!
What if you could consult with your dr on the point..If the egg is not genetically damaged, then it might be the way out for you. Good luck on your further steps.
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