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From a Home Water Birth Plan to Big Hospital Stay + Heart Surgery *4 weeks to go* Rss

So as the subject says I was planning a home water birth and now we have found that our bubs has a heart defect and will need surgery asap.

We found out a few weeks ago, so have had a little bit of time for it to sink in, but what I was wondering is. . . . .

Anyone else been faced with this kind of thing?

Any tips to make the hospital as positive and natural as possible?? I am pretty up with what a hospital thinks a 'natural birth' is and it's a bit different to what I think tongue

They are hopefully going to let me go into labour naturally (but we have to monitor his heart over the next 4 weeks to make sure this is possible and they don't have to get him out early!) and all I know so far is that Ash (our bubs) will need to be constantly monitored. A mixture of the scalp one and the two big belly straps. I have read about wireless monitoring so I will ask about that. . .

As for support I have my dh but my mw can't be there, I am under the high risk team so I won't know who will be my mw until it happens. . . . madness!!

Anyway, any help would be appreciated!!

www.katierobinson.co.nz

I am so sorry....I can only imagine the pressure and stress you must be feeling....
Are you friends enough with your midwife to have her come with you just as a support...in a kind of doula role. That way she could help keep your birth space and may be able to explain things that the come up that you don't know about.
Even though you are having a hospital birth - everything you have learnt so far still stands. You are going into it knowing how they work which gives you an up at the start!! I would guess that they won't be inducing you at all, because that can cause fetal distress and I am a little confused as to why they want scalp monitoring as well as belly monitoring...surely scalp monitoring is more distressing for a baby....I would be asking them about that.

You can create your own birth space in a hosp. Play some nice music, take your own blanket / pillow or something comforting and dim the lights. Keep unnecessary people out of the room (your support persons job)so you can focus. Most of all relaaaax. I know that it will all be very stressful, but the more relaxed you are, the easier your labour and birth will be. If people want to ask you questions, get them to ask a support person out side the room. They can field unnecessary questions.

I don't know what else to say except all the best with it all!

Lots of love and strength to you!!

xxx
A good friend of mine was in a similar situation, she was told bub had heart problems at 20 weeks. They didn't know if he was going to need surgery straight away or what was going to happen when he arrived.

She went into labour spontaneously (the day they were going to induce) and was monitored the whole time. Bub was posterior and she couldn't move due to the monitors so they had to do a csect (not trying to scare you here). The good news is bub was fine, no surgery required on him - he has to have scans every 6 months or so just to see how his heart is doing but so far all is well.

As for the hossy, I guess take things that make you comfortable and remind you of home. I laboured mostly at home and then went to hospital (was considered a risk due to old injury), I got hacked off with everyone and everything. It was after he was born that I really appreciated the bits I'd brought in from home.

Love my boys M-10/05/08 J-01/12/09

I would suggest you do a lot of reading on NICU/SCN policies, and research on best practices. IF your bub need specialised care you will probably end up there, so know your rights and what to ask for well in advance. I found KMC or kangarro mother care very interesting, and you can find more info on WHO site and other places as well.

Unless someone is sitting in the room at all time with the CTG machine to monitor it and make sure it stays in place during labour, they really are better coming back every 15-20mins to check manually. Less stress on you means less on bub as well.

Hope all goes well for your family.

Brissie mum 5 & 2 y.o munchkins & 1 due

Hey, Im so sorry to hear about your situation. While I didnt have the same situation as you I did have my plans mucked up from having a home birth to having to fly interstate to have a hospital birth.

I was living in a remote area with no hospitals and had to go 4 hrs into town to stay for approx 4-6 weeks in a furnished house so I could have a home birth. about 3 weeks before I was due to go into town I was told our accommodation was double booked and was going to have to stay at a hotel. I couldnt exactly have a home birth then and didnt like the idea of having to stay at a hotel until I went into labour so my only other option was to fly to syd and stay with my parents and have the baby there.

I was so devastated about this I started getting depressed and all that. In the end it worked out fine, I had our ds in a low risk hospital with no interventions etc and looking back it was a great birth.

My advice to coping with going from planned home birth to hospital birth is honestly go with the flow but dont let them forget that you were wanting a home birth so they will be well aware of how you would have liked things to be but keeping in mind the medical risks. (I had a monitor with my daughter and it was strapped around me for most of the time but there were times that I was able to ask them to let me have a break from it and have a quick change of position etc so maybe see if they can do things like this if its not too risky)

Just keep reminding yourself that you are in the best place for the health of your little bub and you want to do everything you can to give him the best of health - you can always have a homebirth with your next one (ive wanted a home birth since my first and now are looking at ttc #3 with no home birth happened as of yet. haha)

Good luck with everything, I hope it all turns out perfect for you all. smile
Hey there, I thought I would post a little update. . . . which is VERY late!

www.asheart.shutterfly.com

We had our little pumpkin in hospital and stayed a month he had a procedure at 1 day and surgery at 22 days.

Then another surgery at 8 months.

He is doing so well, and will need another open heart surgery at 2 or 3 years old. He is doing REALLY well actually. . he just doesnt consider sleep to be something he needs to do haha. He is 13 months old =)

Just in case anyone clicks on here because they are in a similar situation. PLEASE take the advice of mumaof2 and tell them to let you off the monitor!

I had the crappiest birth out. They said 'No I wasn't allowed off the monitors" for the first few times I asked, just because it was easier for them. Then after a while I just gave up asking. . .I know I could have though. Even pushing him out a stupid lady that I didn't know (I didn't know anyone out of the 10 people in there) pressed the monitors onto my stomach every single contraction. It hurt more than anything!

I went into it quite strong, but after not long I gave up and let anything happen! . . .

So yea. My birth sucked. But it was worth it, Ash got the best care I could have wanted!

www.katierobinson.co.nz

Oh YES!! I did have to say also that I went into labour naturally at 39 weeks and did the whole horrible hellish thing with no drugs at all. hehe.

If anyone is in or has been in a similar situation I would love to talk to them. Even though I actually in the end didn't do too well (even though I really was 'prepared' and knew what I should do!!!!) . .

www.katierobinson.co.nz

Posted by: OC1246

Even though you are having a hospital birth - everything you have learnt so far still stands. You are going into it knowing how they work which gives you an up at the start!! I would guess that they won't be inducing you at all, because that can cause fetal distress and I am a little confused as to why they want scalp monitoring as well as belly monitoring...surely scalp monitoring is more distressing for a baby....I would be asking them about that.


xxx


Just wanted to say on this bit when I had DS (heart probs also) they used both moniters as once bubs is too far down the belly straps can't detect a heart rate, though it was excruciating when they were trying to put the scalp monitor I was vomiting and passing out from the pain so they didn't use it.

Just wanted to say a huge congrats, my first had heart problems and I also went through an entire labour with the belly straps on as DS' heart rate sat between 50-100 beats but I had a very compassioante midwife who helped me move around with them on
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