I had a very awkward moment today.
DH and I are yet to share our news with family and friends as we want to try and get to the 12 week mark.
I had lunch with a close friend today who has been TTC for the past year. Lunch turned into a D&M about her struggles and how hard she is finding it to be happy & excited for others (family & friends) who are pregnant or just given birth. She is over babies ! (so much so that she isn't coming to a girl night out because two of our pregnant friends will be there)
As you can imagine, I feel terrible. I have no idea how I am going to break my news to her when the time comes knowing how she feels. I don't want to come across as smug as I understand her struggle but at the same time I am over the moon to be expecting my first baby.
Have any of you lovely ladies faced a similar situation ? I just don't know what to do.
I am someone who was on the receiving end of this conversation all of last year. It took me 11 months (and 2MC's) to get to be having this bub, and while I was going through all of that, 7 of my friends got pregnant!!!!
So as someone who's been in your friends' shoes, she will want you to tell her, but gently. She won't want to hear about your scan, or how sick you feel, and she might not show that's she's overjoyed about your news. But tell her!!
I had a friend who didn't tell me and I found out from someone else that knew she was pregnant, and this person said my friend didn't want to tell me because she thought it would hurt me! I think I was more hurt by not being told that I would have been if I had been told straight!
It's a difficult situation to be in, because you probably are going to hurt her with your news. But being straight with her, you will most probably hurt her less and keep your friendship smile
Hope this makes some sort of sense!