Jayne and Clare it's perfectly natural to be freaked/scared/not wanting to go through the birth. Like my antenatal teacher told us on our first night with ds, you aren't here to have a labour, you are here to have a baby.
Clare I'm quite happy to share my birth story, it was fabulous and couldn't have gone any other way than I wanted it. The main thing to do is keep an open mind about labour, because things can change quickly and the best thing is for you and baby to be safe and well at the end of it. When I was half way through my pregnancy with ds I told my mw I would have a c-sect because I was too scared of giving birth, she told me it was out of the question I didn't want to experience that pain, I'm so glad I went through natural labour myself, yes it was painful (to be honest I can't remember how bad now and it's only 15 months later) but at the same time it was amazing, I cry thinking about it!
This is going to be really long so sorry!
My hind waters broke at 7am. Contractions started at 9am. By 10 they were 5 mins apart 60 sec long, we went to hosp at 1pm (takes 30 mins to get there left at 12.30). My mw is amazing she's strong and tough on me when I need her to be (why I chose her). She did an internal and I was 6cm dilated and I told her ds would be born by dinner LOL (he was!) jumped in the bath and at 2.30 had to get out because contractions were 3 mins apart 70 sec long and every contraction I tried to push because ds head was so low. Internal was 8cm and mw had to break my full waters and a bit of my cervix was stuck on ds nose so she had to stretch it over. That hurt like hell I remember almost being in tears and she kept apologising but it wasn't her fault! Had to lie on my left side until I was ready to push because otherwise I would have internally torn myself. Transition contractions started about 10 mins after getting on the bed and they were really painful, I didn't notice the contractions as much until they were 3 mins apart. Dh was amazing he held my hand and coached me to breathe, kept telling me and doing it with me. My mw did accupressure on my feet while I had a contraction it was amazing how much it helped. Transition contractions were on top of each other, meaning they never ended one would die off another would start and they were about 90 seconds long. I got a bit crazy and said I wanted to go home I wasn't in labour, and then after I asked my mw could I please have drugs. I tried gas but started laughing, and then had pethidine but tried to talk her out of it saying no not through a contraction (for some reason I thought it would hurt!) once the pethidine kicked in (I had this 1.5 hours before ds was born) I could smile between a contraction, all the pain was there I just felt happy to get through them again. I drank so much water my mw didn't stop me, I think I had 3 litres all up from 1pm until ds was born. By 4.25 I said I wanted to push and remember couldn't move only roll onto my back. My mw said to dh come look you can see his head and I asked to feel it and did it was amazing there was all this clumpy hair and a hard lump that didn't feel a part of me. When I tried to start pushing I yelled (screamed) and my mw said stop using my energy in yelling and push, I yelled at her saying I was pushing and she said no cause now I'm talking. After being told off (thank god she did that) dh kept coaching me through breathing, holding my head down with every contraction (mine never stopped I kept going) and I remember pushing ds was so painful, but I couldn't stop I had this overwhelming sensation that I couldn't not push. Another mw came in to hold up my other leg, and I remember my mw saying push, pant, push, pant as ds head slowly came out. THere was a minute as she first said pant that it burnt like I was on fire, then it quickly went away as every quick little push things got easier. All of a sudden there was a relief his head was out, then my mw put her hands up and got his shoulders (now that's weird feeling) and I pushed, panted his shoulers out (tore but didn't know or feel a thing) as his shoulders were too big and then the most amazingly odd feeling of his body coming out with the last big push...this long warm hard lumpy body and then I was lying on my back all the pain gone and staring at the ceiling thinking omg it's over I did it! I was completely naked which I had no care for by then and ds cord was cut straight away (I was given sintocin just before he was body came out to get the placenta out quickly) and he was put on my chest. He was so warm, slippery and crying and oh god I'm crying, he was beautiful, amazing all this black clumpy hair and his tiny hands touching me I was so in awe of this little person who had gone through so much to be born and he had the darkest blue eyes when he opened them. That feeling made any pain I had just gone through go away and I remember an hour after ds being born I said to dh I can do that again easily. It's a miracle alright. I had a second degree tear, which required quite a lot of stitches that my mw did and I remember when she had to give me 2 locals to numb the area I freaked out thinking it would hurt, even though I had pushed out a 8lb 4.5oz baby 40 minutes before!
I hope this hasn't scared you but honestly I'd do it again in a heart beat, I found ms harder than labour and the feeling you have of giving birth to your own baby is something no one can ever top. There is absolutely nothing like it in the world.
So I want my labour to be the same! It was 6 hours of contractions start to finish and oly 32 mins of pushing.
And yes, we did antenatal classes you start around 30 - 32 weeks depending on how many weeks your classes are. It was a great learning curve. I learnt to think that every contraction is one step closer to the end, and also the lady told us that sometimes holding a piece of baby clothing helps, which I did during transition. Ds first one piece suit I clung to until pushing and it reminded me that someone will be arriving.
Ok this is so long sorry everyone! smile Hope all is well and ms is leaving us all soon!