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I miscarried and I'm struggling to cope with everyday life Lock Rss

Hi there, I'm just putting it out there and hoping to talk to ladies or anyone who understands what I'm going through. My partner doesn't understand and just tells me I'm fine get over it but he never believes me when i say i need help. I feel trapped between him and my mind. Please can someone help me. I'm scared I'm headed to a very dark place as i have had nasty thoughts already and i don't know where to go... help me
Remember it wasn't your fault and it was out of your hands. Your partner should be more supportive and should be there for you to talk to. I have had two miscarriages with one a saw a heartbeat at 7w and one week later was gone. One I was haemorrhaging at 12 weeks, they wouldn't even let me look at the ultrasound machine, I'm glad I didn't. I lost one before my last child due to a scare of a stroke due to the pregnancy. It can be emotionally draining especially without support around you, maybe someone else can talk to your partner to have him take it seriously, it's not a nice thing to go through by yourself and I agree you need the help to move on. Can you talk to your parents? It does get better, please surround yourself with friends. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, be strong, there still is a good future ahead.

Go to your GP and get a mental health plan going. In aus we get a certain amount of psychologists visits for free, don't know if you have that in NZ? Look up loss support groups??? Hope you feel better soon.
I have had 10 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy over an 11 year period... But I then went to see a Naturopath Iridologist based on the North Shore in Auckland who specialises in Conception and Pregnancy issues. Brad Crouch is his name. Absolutely brilliant. I was pregnant with a few weeks of his prescribing me some herbal medicines that I was lacking (he looks at your eyes with a special tool to see what underlying problems you have) and successfully had a healthy baby boy in 2013. Don't give up hope and don't blame yourself. Well worth a try.
Men don't cope well with these things so don't take it personally with your partners reaction to things. He will also be hurting but it's a man thing to not show your true feelings.
Thank you. I have found someone to talk to and it is helping a lot already smile @My1Sparkles I am so happy to hear you got your little miracle and My HUsband and I are going to look at seeing Brad Crouch, he sounds good.
Thank you again
Great to hear you are feeling a little brighter after talking to someone.
Brads website is www.naturopathauckland.co.nz
Have a look at the blogs, (baby T is my story) some interesting reading. When you go to his office, there are hundreds of success stories on the wall, pics of beautiful babies and thank you notes from parents that he has helped get across the line. Gives you so much more hope when you walk in the door and see it all.
He is internationally recognized, women travel from all over the world to see him. I think he was once based in Hong Kong.
It's a family business, his wife and adult kids work in the office doing admin etc.
Good luck, happy to give you my email if you ever wish to contact me. Have a look at the diet plan on his website too... Start it now, even if you don't need to lose weight.... it's simple, healthy and easy... Don't eat anything grown under the ground (ie potato), no flour, no sugar, no grains. Once pregnant and through first trimester you can eat anything so it not a long sacrifice.
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We are so sorry for your loss.

We also wanted to let you know that we have a number of New Zealand based Miscarriage Grief and Counselling Support Services listed on our website, which may be worth taking a look at. We also recommend that you contact your GP if you need additional assistance.

All the best smile
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I’m sorry that you had a miscarriage. This is very unpleasant. I’m so sorry for your loss. I greatly empathize with you, dear. I hope you feel better soon. Remember it wasn't your fault and it was out of your hands. Your partner should be more supportive and should be there for you to talk to. definitely, one day will come when you will hold your baby in your arms. See friend you have already suffered a lot. I think it’s time to live. You should start living now. It’s going to be very good for you. Just be happy.
You are right. A child is a child. However, I guess we can’t really understand the sentiments until we are in that position. I think it’ll be extremely hard to let go of a child that you have spent so much love and care over. But stay strong. I wish your partner was a bit supportive. People should adapt with time. I hope things get better for you soon.
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