Hi Mamfa, thanks for replying.
We have always known there was development delays in a few areas, particularly her speech & social skills.
We started her in a new kindy this year and straight away they noticed similar things and did a checklist on her which showed how she was behind.
We started her on speech therapy straight away and persevered, but got nowhere as she didn't click with the therapist. She would burst into tears at the bottom of the driveway then wouldn't co operate at all with her. So we gave up after 3 mths. She was getting one on one at kindy, and she was talking more than ever before within a matter of weeks, but you still can't understand a whole lot.
We have been waiting for a paed appt since june, hopefully we will have an appt around about february.
In the meantime we have been to ot's, a different speech therapist, who assessed her speech (it also took 2 appts for us as once she had enough, she wouldn't talk anymore and threw herself on the floor and had one of her "moments" (tantrums). But she did do really well the 2nd time (I think she had the trust of the therapist by then which is very important to her). She will be 4 in January but her comprehension is rated around the 2yr10mth age and her actual speech is about 2yr5mth.
We also took her to a psychologist and she did the GARS assessment and the ASDS assessment. She gave us the scores then and there which was great, for the asds one (aspergers) it was 104 which is likely and the GARS one (autism rating scale) score was 107 which is very likely. The guidance counellor at the school (it's a k-12 school) is also a child psychologist and she did the IQ assessment, but not sure what those results were.
So now we have done everything we can to help the paed when we finally get our appt and hopefully will get a diagnosis (if one) then and there and not sent away for another 6mths.
I have alsobeen able to enrol her in the ECDU (early childhood development unit) at one of the schools here (special ed unit) for 2 hrs a day, 2 days a week starting next year so ideally she will be getting 4hrs a week speech therapy instead of 1/2 hr a fortnight, which i think will help her out heaps.
So thats our story, sorry about the novel, but its good writing it all down and making sense of it, particularly with someone who knows what I'm talking about.
Would love to keep in touch if possible. You can never have too much support with this type of thing.
Cheers for now