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No friends? Rss

Hi all,
As you all are i am in the same boat. I started lossing my friends when i was preg, even when i had my bueatiful boy only one friend came to visit me in the hosp, i kept getting msgs and phone calls saying they would but never did. Apparently it was my fault because i left hosp early. Some so called good friends didnt see him until he was six months, then they would ask me to go out but my baby wasnt invited. Who needs friends like that. I only really have one friend she had a little girl but has a very busy life. My partner works away all week and i have no other friends. It a bit depressing living life like that. Jye gets damn sick of the house. Anyyway heard about the huggies website and decided to join. I am from central coast NSW, anyone else??
kylie

Hi all,
As you all are i am in the same boat. I started lossing my friends when i was preg, even when i had my bueatiful boy only one friend came to visit me in the hosp, i kept getting msgs and phone calls saying they would but never did. Apparently it was my fault because i left hosp early. Some so called good friends didnt see him until he was six months, then they would ask me to go out but my baby wasnt invited. Who needs friends like that. I only really have one friend she had a little girl but has a very busy life. My partner works away all week and i have no other friends. It a bit depressing living life like that. Jye gets damn sick of the house. Anyyway heard about the huggies website and decided to join. I am from central coast NSW, anyone else??
kylie

I have had the same thing and if they did came around they would only ask how my daughter was and never ask how I was doing or if I would like to came out with them to coffee or to look at some shops or I was always the one to get everyone together (which I got sick of doing).

Maybe when you came a mum you arent yourself anymore or you cant do anything for ourself anymore and who knows what goes though other people's heads.

Tracey,Jaye (girl)12/06/05, Sam (boy)10/07/09

Since falling pregnant i have lost most of my friends. My only true friends are those i met whilst pregnant - mind you when ella was born some ran a mile - and those i have met since. I have one or two from before i have ella. I was 19 when i fell pregnant and when i had her, i am now 21 and full time at uni, so i am pretty busy but i still find time for my friends. It was weird though, in the week before Ellas first birthday they all rang and organised to come and see her. Two months later on my 21st - nothing - only a few of my friends i have met since falling pregnant.
i am on msn messenger a bit - kimberley_smith_@hotmail.com
I have met a lot of beautiful young mums at a group i go to. It is for mums under 25 and i started going when ella was about 7 months, sorry it is parents under 25, but there has only been a couple of dads show up before, i miss my girls, as i cnt go due to uni.
I think you go through cycles in life that change you. Having kids is one of them. Your friends will one day have children and feel the same way you do now. It;s amazing what a life altering experience having a baby is. Nothing prepares you for this!

Join Mum's Group and playgroups. Libraries have story time. No matter what the mums are like you all have something in common..... kids! There's always something to talk about.

As a suffer of postnatal depression... I know it is important to make sure you still get out there and socialise. Have hubby or mum look after the kids and go out for a coffee with a friend. If you make an effort with them often they will with you too. Don't just write them off. Maybe they think you are too tired or busy... sometimes our friends don't know what we are thinking. Some people don't like change... Make the first move, you may be surprised at the reponse you get or know for sure who to take off the christmas card list!

Ella 06/01/04 & Chloe 20/06/05

Hey,
I have none of my friends from when i was at school, i left when i was 17 an not long after that i became pregnant none of my true friends believed me an as soon as they saw me with my DD they didnt care anymore.
I miss having friends around but my thought now is if they were true mates then they still would be thr for me. It has taken me ages to get used to the idea of not having my old mates around but now i have alot of new good friends who have children of thr own an know what i am going through.
Don't get me wrong sometimes i think that i lost my mates because i kept my baby but i wouldn't change things for the world she is my life and now im expecting #2 in just over 3 weeks.
I think i have a better life without them now even if they cant accept me for who i am.

Sarah 20 Dh 21 J-lee 20mnths n 30/6/07

Hi!

I too can relate to that. Apart from one friend I only heard from one other while I was pregnant and that's because she was too. As soon as she had hers (before me) that also ended. It's just the way things go i suppose.

Family is most important at the end of the day...although it would be nice for the friends to stick by you.

Nikki, baby girl ''''''''''''''''06, baby boy ''''

I had friends .. but when i fell pregnant they all went away.. my closest one even tried setting my house on fire while i was in it, 2 days before i gave birth.

now i talk to no one .. my partner doesn't even talk to me much.. i have no one but some sill faceless names on a few forum boards..

how BLEEPING sad am i lol

Ky,Tristan 1year old

im 16 and when i was going to skool everyone was my friend but since i left... no one calls.. no one msgs..no one comes to see me but they all say that they will come and see me after i get home from hospital and i have started telling them not to bother because all they want to do is see the baby and i personally cant be bothered with them
i feel im better of without them and im sure that we will all make new friends grin

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Why don't you find a mother's group in your area. I've been going to one for about 3 months now and all the girls are lovely. I'm quite a shy person but i feel i have made heaps of friends, and my 5 month old has a great time with the other babies. Get their phone numbers and on other days plan to have coffee. It's great meeting new people. Good Luck
Hi, i think i have about 3 friends that i still keep in touch with since i had my first son - 2 of them are on a rare basis when i get the time or the remember me. The other has a daughter a month exactly younger then my son.(i had known her for the shortest time and have been talking to her again are a short time). Because i have moved around the majority of my friends are online - i have never met half of them. But since settling down ( and now expecting no 4) i have met two ladies in the area that i live in threw the huggies website community forum. I think it is wonderful - most of the playgroups i tried were not very welcoming. However i am thinking of trying one in my new area.
Jas
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