Being prepared for the emotional changes that having a new baby brings is just as important as having the nursery ready, pram purchased and baby announcement sent to family. Did you know that a lot of men experience their own form of post natal depression and anxiety once the baby is born or during their partner's pregnancy? As the woman's focus shifts from her male partner to her baby, he can begin to feel neglected and also struggle to connect with the baby. Here are a few tips to help new dads negotiate fatherhood.
1. Build on and reach out to your support network
Whether or not you have friends that have kids, make sure you keep a handful of close male friends nearby who you can talk to about the realities of what you are going through. Whether it's a few beers or a surf after work, make sure you maintain these friendships even if you are feeling tired.
2. Visualize the sort of father you want to be
What sort of father was your dad? What did you love doing with him that you look forward to doing with your child? What would you do differently? Write down a list!
3. Speak to your partner about what sort of parenting styles you agree on
Sleep deprivation and feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility of being a new parent can bring about emotional discussions. Speak about the big things - schooling, discipline, vaccinations well ahead of the arrival of your new baby to make sure you are on the same page. If you come up against obstacles, you'll at least have time to try and find a shared solution.
4. Patience and support for your partner
Did we mention sleep deprivation? Yes, this combined with hormonal surges following on from the birth of the baby can lead to some challenging situations. Take a deep breath and remember that "this too shall pass" - these moments where your partner is teary and emotional or angry are fleeting. Try not to take it too personally.
5. Get help if you are struggling
If you are feeling anxious or depressed, seek help from your GP. Maintaining a regular exercise regime and strong social networks are important, but make sure you address any emotional issues you are having as they arise.
Are you a new dad? What do you struggle with or what do you love about new parenthood?
1. Build on and reach out to your support network
Whether or not you have friends that have kids, make sure you keep a handful of close male friends nearby who you can talk to about the realities of what you are going through. Whether it's a few beers or a surf after work, make sure you maintain these friendships even if you are feeling tired.
2. Visualize the sort of father you want to be
What sort of father was your dad? What did you love doing with him that you look forward to doing with your child? What would you do differently? Write down a list!
3. Speak to your partner about what sort of parenting styles you agree on
Sleep deprivation and feeling overwhelmed by the responsibility of being a new parent can bring about emotional discussions. Speak about the big things - schooling, discipline, vaccinations well ahead of the arrival of your new baby to make sure you are on the same page. If you come up against obstacles, you'll at least have time to try and find a shared solution.
4. Patience and support for your partner
Did we mention sleep deprivation? Yes, this combined with hormonal surges following on from the birth of the baby can lead to some challenging situations. Take a deep breath and remember that "this too shall pass" - these moments where your partner is teary and emotional or angry are fleeting. Try not to take it too personally.
5. Get help if you are struggling
If you are feeling anxious or depressed, seek help from your GP. Maintaining a regular exercise regime and strong social networks are important, but make sure you address any emotional issues you are having as they arise.
Are you a new dad? What do you struggle with or what do you love about new parenthood?
